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I need advice on communicating with my fiance?

Hi everyone. I would greatly appreciate any advice and insight you can offer me, as I need help on learning to communicate my feelings better, specifically with my fiance, but the truth is I have a hard time expressing my feelings/wants/needs with everyone.

Like every woman, I have some insecurities. My insecurities make me so determined to please people… I hate letting people down. I’m so afraid to speak my mind. I know how important communication is in a relationship, but I find myself unable to express simple thoughts and feelings with my fiance. We are getting married between18 months and two years from now to save up money, so it’s not just wedding nerves or related to the wedding. I’ve always been like this. I’m just afraid of saying something that will upset my fiance or cause resentment and so I hold back. I also always feel like I’m overstepping or being too controlling and critical. I pretty much just bite my tongue and kiss his a.s.s a lot and it’s because of my own insecurity, not because of some way he makes me feel. To be honest, he’s pretty bad at communicating his feelings too. I want to work on this before we get married, and before we start wedding planning. This is important to me. I love this man with all my heart and I want to be able to communicate properly with him. I appreciate your help, truly. Thank you

By Sharon · Asked 1 day 12 hours 18 mins ago

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Looking to start a small business where I sell invitations, favors, and also assist in weddding planning?

I would love to do the seating charts, send out the invitations and receive the responses, centerpieces for showers things like that. What my question is if you were a bride would you hire someone to do those little things so you wouldn’t have to deal with it. Also, how to go about starting something like that?

By Sharon · Asked 6 days 12 hours 19 mins ago

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My wedding budget! Can you take a look? Is it unreasonable?

I want to preface this with the fact that we’ve saved $48,000 for our wedding/honeymoon expenses but only anticipated spending $30,000 which I think is more reasonable. So while we will be paying cash for our wedding it doesn’t excuse excessive spending.

Below is our budget so far based on 200 guests (big families on both sides!) and with very reasonable venues (we live in Detroit; there’s a large atrium/conservatory for the ceremony and my favorite museum The Charles H Wright African American Museum for the reception for less than $4,000 together).

Our biggest surprise costs came from food/open bar, the photographer/videographer and rentals being so expensive.

Budget Breakdown

Attire & Accessories$3,938

Dress Accessories$200 Headpiece and/or Veil$88 Tuxedo/suit/other Accessories$150 Tuxedo/suit$500 Wedding Dress$3,000

Beauty & Spa$230

Hair Service$95 Makeup Service$74 Manicure & Pedicure$61

Entertainment$2,450 DJ$1,500 Ceremony Music$950

Flowers & Decorations$5,067

Boutonnieres, Corsages$200 Bridal Bouquet$200 Bridesmaid Bouquets$260 Ceremony Flower Arrangements$440 Flower Girl Flowers$100 Flower Petals$67 Reception Decorations$1,500 Reception Flower Arrangements$1,500 Reception Lighting $800

Gifts & Favors$1,000

Tips (for all services)$500 Wedding Favors$500

Stationary$538 Invitations & Reply Cards$212 Postage$90 Reception Menus$95 Seating Chart$65 Thank You Cards$76

Photography & Video$7,500

Wedding Photographer$3,100 Wedding Videographer$4,400

Venue, Catering & Rentals$16,475

Ceremony Location$400 Ceremony Officiator$300 Hotel Room for After Reception$260 Reception Bar Service$3,000 Reception Food Service$7,000 Reception Location$3,000 Wedding Cake/dessert$515 Special Events Rentals$5,000 Rentals: Tables, chairs, linens, china, chargers, flatware, glassware I should probably have mentioned that there are a few items we’ve already purchased that were not included in the budget such as the wedding parties’ attire and out-of-town guests’ hotel accommodations.

Also, yes I agree about the flowers! I’m looking for more reasonably priced florists now. The videographer/photographer has worked for my firm and does excellent professional work so I don’t mind that expense.

Oh and I got a discount on the food as my fianceREAD MORE

By Sharon · Asked 10 days 12 hours 19 mins ago

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What is the proper way to back out of an out of state wedding that I can’t afford after I rsvp’d yes?

I did have the money saved and purchased a travel package that I split the cost with my father. My father backed out last minute and the trip is more expensive now to book last minute by myself. I don’t have the kind of father that would help me financially after he’s created the problem. It’s 3 weeks away, should I call the bride as well as send a card and gift? Thank you for your advice!! This has been a very stressful time and I feared adding drama to the bride.

By Sharon · Asked 11 days 12 hours 10 mins ago

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My sister in law just called, not sure if daughter and her date can come to wedding.How should I handle it?

My niece is in college and plays sports. Of course the school year start again till middle of August and My Daughter’s wedding is in September 14th. My sister in law called wanting to know how to RSVP because they want know if their daughter and her date will be able to attend because she may have a game on that saturday or may not and want know till the middle of August. We have requested RSVP’s be returned by July 1st. The wedding is out of town on the beach with a sit down dinner and dancing to follow at a Hotel which needs final count and full payment by the 1st of August. We have invited 120 guest. My daughter is having a seating chart due to we just went to my sister in law’s son wedding last month and families with younger children could not find seats together at the reception because there wasn’t a seating arrangement and people were asked to move from tables so they could be together. My daughter doesn’t want to have any mishaps like this or not having enough tables and chairs for the guest. So how do we respond? We are not rich by any means and have our other daughter’s wedding coming up the 1st of next year to pay for also! What is proper?

By Sharon · Asked 14 days 12 hours 19 mins ago

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I had a huge fight with my fiance a week and a half before the wedding?

I don’t even know what we fought about it. It started with the seating chart and escalated into my saying I’m tired of all this and him walking out on me saying he isn’t going to stand for my stupid games and I need to grow up. He hasn’t spoken to me since yesterday afternoon. I’m scared he is going to throw it all away and leave me. I don’t know what to say or do to make this better. I’ve tried to talk to him, but he isnt taking my calls. I dont know if he just needs the time to cool down or if he is just done. I have no one else to turn to

By Sharon · Asked 17 days 12 hours 19 mins ago

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Is there a way to make sure that no one brings any extra guests to my wedding?

I know a lot of invitations say “for you and guest” or something along those lines. How can I word it so that it is still polite? My soon-to-be brother-in-law’s wife is best friends with my fiance’s ex girlfriend. They had a very serious relationship, and I really just don’t want her at my wedding. My fiance is no longer friends with her, so he doesn’t want her to come either. I don’t just want to be like, “Don’t bring so-and-so.” And there are no hard feelings really with the ex so I’m not sure if his sister-in-law would think it would be a big deal. So, I’m not sure how to word it on the invitation so that no one brings uninvited guests. Any suggestions? I know the obvious way is to just not put “and guest” but would putting specific names be enough? I’m not saying that she would definitely bring the ex, but I just want to make sure that there is no chance of it happening. Quick question: They are having a baby in April. But I wouldn’t put 3 seats, right? I would just put 2 and they would know that the baby was invited. I’m not saying that she would definitely bring the ex, but I just want to make sure that there is no chance of it happening. Quick question: They are having a baby in April. But I wouldn’t put 3 seats, right? I would just put 2 and they would know that the baby was invited.

By Sharon · Asked 19 days 12 hours 20 mins ago

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Honeymoon Question…Who pays?

I heave heard the honeymoon is traditionally the parent’s “wedding gift”, but we are having such a lavish wedding that my parents are paying for, I hate them to buy the honeymoon travel, maybe it is traditionally the groom’s parents’ gift? Or we could easily afford it ourselves, but I’d hate to book it and hurt one set of parent’s feelings!

I know nothing is set in stone, I am speaking tradtionally.

By Sharon · Asked 21 days 12 hours 17 mins ago

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Maid of Honor help?

Okay so I’m stressing out about choosing a Maid of Honor. Now I have two best friends that have been with me through the good, the bad, and the ugly. I’ve known them both for the same amount of time. They’re both blunt, but in a nice way, they’re not afraid to tell me what they feel about anything which is a FABULOUS quality in friends.

Now I don’t know how to pick on for my maid of honor. they’re both going to be in the wedding one way or another…but choosing one over the other is so stressful. My friends have told me the one that can give you the most honesty and the most support is the one to choose. It’s just hard because they both are at the same level of honesty and support in my life.

How do you choose with people this close?!? I could use any advice the world has to make this a little, smidge easier.

By Sharon · Asked 22 days 12 hours 17 mins ago

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Girl help please, stressing out about it :(?

okay, story time! Last year, in Global perspective, i saw a girl in my class. I pretty much fell for her right then, I would always look over at her. I hadn’t felt that way about someone sense my first love. After a few weeks the teacher decided to give us a seating chart and sat us right next to each other. Happy days for me! I learned quite a lot about her and her personality and she is a lot like my first love. Right before summer I gave her my number in her yearbook but we didn’t start texting till I gave it to her again on Facebook. We have been talking for a while now and I’v told her that I like her and that I’v really fallen for her. She says that she’s not allowed to date because her parents don’t let her but we can hangout when shes at her moms. We haven’t hung out at all and it doesn’t feel like she’s trying at all.. She says that I’m sweet and that she would love to date me and to have her first kiss with me and everything but she’s also flirting a lot and it hurts. Yesterday (first day of school) I saw her walking around at the end of school with another guy flirting with him and right before that we were texting in class and i had asked her when are we ganna get to hang out and she said that she didn’t know. When i see her in the halls she just smiles at me and walks away. I feel kinda played like she was just flirting with me and saying a bunch of stuff cuz she was just bored and now I’v fallen hard for her..what should i do?

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By Sharon · Asked 24 days 12 hours 20 mins ago

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